They gain understanding of what they need in a mate, and what they cannot tolerate, making them more careful about choosing the second time around.

Of course, once you've spotted the gossip-monger it might help to be very careful about the information you share with this employee.

I'm more cautious here myself than in Britain.

We must be cautious, however.

They will take care not to outrun their income. They will never be distressed for money.