"How do you like your tea?" "I like it rather weak."

Every time you shed a should, state a preference, and make a decision you are rewriting your own story.

I want to get married, I want to marry an attentive man, do not forget my birthday, our anniversary, know my preferences.

And they forget to just do the simplest thing in the world: turn inside and analyze what it is that they really like.

We assume we know them better than they know themselves. We consider ourselves experts on their likes and dislikes, their needs and wants.